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4 Things You Must Know To Love Your Husband The Right Way!
By Iris Shamble

The man (or husband) is a provider, protector, comforter, leader, lover, and most of all, a conqueror. God gave him his first assignment right in the Garden of Eden: “Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend and keep it” (Genesis 2:15). God knew it was not good for man to be alone, so He made a “helper comparable to him” (2:18). God put Adam in charge but He knew Adam would need a helper. And then came Wo-Man - Eve! A Wo-Man to understand her husband and to help him fulfill his leadership role, to pray for him, support his talents, and encourage him.

Now, does that mean that because man is in a leadership role, he has everything under control? Absolutely not! Woman is someone who is adaptable to him, someone to enhance him. So, though the old saying says a dog is man s best friend, we know better!

We have to accept our husbands for who they are. It does take time and patience, but through love and determination we can have a great marriage. After all, as women we are not always the easiest person to get along with. Our husband truly needs us to understand him. Don’t compete with him or nag him, but try to help him and most of all please him. Zipping our lips can help us avoid a lot of unwanted conversations. Show respect to him at all times!

Make sure you keep prayer in your life. Prayer is what changes things, not our attitude. Setting aside a special time of the day/night to talk to God will bring changes into our lives and marriage. Often I spend time with God thanking Him for things I have seen results of and some things I haven’t yet seen results of. I choose to speak life in my life not negative or words that bring death. By this statement of death, I mean destruction or things that do not bring any positive results to my marriage. What we speak in our mouth is surely what we are going to have. Instead of having a good marriage, you can set the stage for a great marriage by what you say.

Many women seem to have a problem with submitting to their husband, yet most of us go outside of our home and faithfully submit to the leadership of our boss with no problem. If you fulfill your role and respect your husband as a leader in your home, your efforts will not go unnoticed by your husband. Your submissive attitude allows a willing spirit to come upon your husband. I can say it will make the life of marriage a little bit easier. I know in my case it did. When our husbands know we cover them in prayer and see we are faithful women, we can be a positive influence. This will also enhance their leadership roles in the marriage and our home.

Men may not share their feelings as we do, but I found that does not mean they don’t care. They do care they just express it in a different way. One last thing to share on loving your husband the right way. So many women become frustrated when trying to get the full attention of their spouse. These great pointers will help you and your judgment for learning how to love your husband the right way:

1) I have learned men DO NOT like to be confronted face to face. You know how it is when being confronted by a dog on a long dark road? By no means am I making a comparison of a man to a dog. Maybe it’s as an act of aggression and since they carry such authority within them, this could cause a problem. Make a choice to sit next to your spouse. I have even learned whether I sit next to my spouse on the bed or coach, it does make a difference in our interaction. There are even times where we walk and talk.

2) Make sure you don’t have the TV on. When I want to talk to my husband, I try to start my conversation before the TV is turned on.

3) Make it easy. Don’t go into a lot of unnecessary conversation. Men like to get to the point and get it over with. Men are very goal orientated, so don’t waste their time. If I am taking to long to get to a point, I sense my husband getting restless.

4) Always give positive news first. Giving negative news leads him to tune out the rest of what you want to share. I have learned to be very wise on how to share news with my husband. Sometimes it may be a matter of waiting until another day or time to share it, if it is not detrimental.

That’s just the way it is! Why start a conflict when there doesn’t have to be one?

Iris Shamble has been sharing her writings for several years and has contributed to the “International Library of Poetry”. She has been a devout Christian for 15 years and is a devoted wife to Darryl Shamble, and mother to two lovely daughters. Iris currently works in the Virginia school system, where she has become an expert on the social and cultural pressures facing children everyday.
She has spent the last five years gathering and substantiating information and interviews for “A Christian Mother’s Guide”. Iris is also a youth mentor, women’s ministry leader and speaks before woman’s groups. For full inspiration and work at home inspiration visit: http://www.achristianmothersguide.com

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10 Signs Your Dating Relationship Is In Deep Trouble
By Christine Akiteng

Your relationship may have started out with excitement, passion and great hope, and back then there was lots of love and trust to go around but now there is a surge of negative energy generated when you are together that can be hard to ignore.

It’s time to take stock of your relationship. Here are just ten warning signs that tell you that you are headed to breaking -up.

1. The relationship has no clarity and one of you seems resistant to such clarity because somehow that means he or she has to step up and deliver or be really open about his or her intentions and motivations.

2. One of you seems to be demanding too much attention, expects too much from the relationship, is bossy, self-centered or focusing on instant gratification rather than long-term happiness.

3. Whenever you have a conversation, it is mostly about problems in the relationship: what is not going right, or who is doing or not doing what etc. instead of more light-hearted and happy conversations.

4. You pick away at each other with criticisms and nagging, and little problems and everyday complaints are magnified to the extent that you end up complaining a lot with one another or getting your back up and shutting down.

5. Anger is expressed immediately and with little hesitation, one or both of you react quickly, directly, and emotions end up flying all around causing more chaos. The other negative effect of this is making your arguments everybody s business.

6. You quickly and frequently feel quite frustrated with each other and don t feel that strong, intimate connection you had in the beginning.

7. One or both of you harbours fears about the loss of the relationship or betrayal and this sometimes leads to using underhanded manipulation and tactics with each other.

8. There is a certain feeling of inequality between the two of you and one of you feels (and rightly so) that he or she is making too many sacrifices for the other and for the relationship and ignoring his or her own needs for happiness.

9. One or both of you feels insecure when either of you connects with other people or expresses independence by doing things or going places without the other.

10. Your sex life is sporadic and one of you always ends up feeling used or less than satisfied.

At this stage of your relationship, it is very easy to slip into a love-hate relationship, but as easily as you can plumb the depths, you can also reach great heights together if you make the effort and time to work through the reasons behind the problems and allow the original attraction you had for each other to express itself positively.

Always remember that, you have come together to learn something about your own deepest fears, needs and feelings, and this may not always be pleasant!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness?. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.

Christine s websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

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4 Fun Dating Ideas for Boys and Girls
By Tim Lee

Tired of going to the same place over and over again for your dates? Not to mention dishing out hundreds and hundreds of dollars to eat out at an expensive restaurant only to have your date, say to your face that she never wants to see you again?

For those individuals whose answer is yes, do not get discouraged, because your dating lives is about to change.

Here is a list of some fun dating ideas that will surely be a change from the usual boring dates.

1. Go to a karaoke bar. Unleash the American Idol wannabe in you by taking your date and yourself to a local karaoke bar. This is a sure way to have fun and some laughs. The great thing about this is that one does not necessarily have to possess a golden voice - just a great sense of humor, and a thick skin that can withstand being laughed at when you try and fail to execute those high notes!

2. Instead of going to an ultra expensive restaurant that serves dishes with portion sizes fit for an elf, why not plan a picnic instead? Not only will individuals be able to save some money this way but they would also be able to impress their dates by including some of their favorite foods in the picnic basket!

When going on a picnic date it is important to choose a location that offers some peace and quiet. This way, couples would be able to talk with each other. One of the best places to have a picnic is somewhere beside a lake. Having the lake as part of the background is very romantic! Just like a scene out of a movie.

3. A comedy club is a great place to take your date, especially if he or she loves to laugh! For those who are on a first date and can t think of a way to break the ice, seeing a comedy act will give them something to talk about! So no more rehearsing of lines, and topics for conversation. This usually never works. It only ends up boring your date!

4. It sounds cheesy, but it works! For a first date, why not go to a romantic movie? This will even give couples an excuse to holds hand inside their greasy tub of popcorn! The great thing about this is that they don t need to say a word to each other, because the characters in the movie will do the talking for them with their sappy dialogue. This is perfect for those guys who automatically go into freeze mode when it comes time to chat up their dates!

When it comes to dating the secret is to get creative! Do not do what everybody else has done before. Think of something new and memorable. Before a special date, individuals should try to find out what type of activities their dates are into! This way, they would have an idea of what types of things they should incorporate into their itinerary for that special date.

Individuals should make sure that they devote a lot of time and some thinking into planning their dates. For sure the person that they re going out with will appreciate their effort in trying to make the date a special occasion. Chances are if they pull this off, their special someone will reward them with another date!

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4 Tips For Choosing Bridesmaid Dresses
By L Hayes

Of course the bride is going to be the main attraction on her wedding day, but picking out the bridesmaids dresses is very important as well. Picking out the bridesmaids dresses can be a huge task, since bridesmaids come in various sizes and they all have different tastes. You want to be sure that you pick out dresses that reflect the style and theme of your wedding so that everyone will look coordinated and beautiful on your wedding day. The following are a few tips that can help you choose your bridesmaids dresses as easily as possible.

Tip #1 - Choose a Dress that Fits the Formality of the Wedding - First of all you need to consider the formality of your wedding ceremony. Is it going to be very formal or is it a more informal affair? The formality of the wedding will have a great deal of impact on the dresses that you choose for your bridesmaids. Consider the time of year that your wedding is in also. If it is warmer, you may want to go for dresses that are sleeveless or strapless. If it is cool you may want to choose bridesmaids dresses that will be a bit warmer.

Tip #2 - Decide on Colors - Next, you will need to decide on the colors for your bridesmaid dresses. Do you have specific colors for your wedding, or are you having a variety of colors? You will also want to consider whether you want the maid of honor to wear a dress that is a different shade or style. If you are having a themed wedding, you may want to choose colors that go along with that theme.

Tip #3 - Find a Style that Flatters Everyone - One of the biggest challenges when picking out bridesmaids dresses can be to find a style of dress that will flatter everyone in your wedding party. More than likely you have bridesmaids in a variety of different sizes and shapes. Some may be tall, while others may be shorter. Try to find a pattern and style that will look good on everyone so they all feel beautiful at the wedding ceremony and reception.

Tip #4 - Compare Prices - Lastly, you will want to take the time to compare prices once you know what you want in a bridesmaid dress. You may be able to find the exact dress online for a much better deal than you will find in a bridal store. Remember, your bridesmaids will be paying for their dresses, so try to find something that everyone will be able to easily afford.

Finally, today there are a variety of different choices in bridesmaids dresses. No doubt you will be able to find dresses that will fit your wedding needs. A variety of colors and styles are available, so no matter what your needs are, you should be able to find dresses that will look beautiful on your bridesmaids.

L Hayes is a wedding professional and owner of Wedding Favors Emporium. They carry an extensive line of unique wedding favors. They offer many popular gift ideas such as place card holders, discount wedding favors, and bridesmaids gifts. For more information about bridal shower favors, wedding planning, or wedding reception ideas, visit their website.

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A Guide to Wedding Invitations
By Kevin Stith

The wedding date and time has been set, the location for the special event has been finalized, and the decision for the wedding theme - traditional and formal or fun and casual - has been made. Now it’s time to take the next step and create wedding invitations that reflect the celebration you’ve planned and provide the information needed for friends and family to have a pleasant experience as wedding guests.

Wedding invitations are the first place your guests will actually get a sense of the wedding you’ve planned. Whether your budget allows for custom made invitations ranging from sophisticated to artistic or do-it-yourself creations, there are plenty of options to provide memorable wedding invitations.

An exquisite array of invitations is available for those planning a formal or traditional wedding. Before you begin visually scanning all the possibilities, familiarize yourself with the language of printers and invitation designers. Understanding the various folds, tri-fold, z-fold, and French-fold, as well as terms such as embossing, thermography, deckle edge and die-cutting can save you time and money.

For the adventurous, a variety of unique wedding invitations can be explored from the homespun feel of a custom portrait boxed with rose petals to CD/DVD presentations for the tech-savvy couple.
Once you’ve selected the design for your wedding invitations, you’ll want to find creative wording to convey the sentiment of your relationship and wedding. Examining wedding invitation etiquette is a good place to begin for the appropriate wording of your invitations.

Regardless of whether your wedding invitations are traditional or casual, you will want to include an RSVP/response card, and a reception card. Other options are also available to include in the mailing as a way to give your guests all the information needed to join in your special celebration.

Wedding Invitations Info provides information on cheap, unique, and do-it-yourself wedding invitations, plus wedding shower invitations, and advice on wedding invitation wording. Wedding Invitations Info is the sister site of Wedding Favors Web.

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