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How To Plan Your Own Wedding
By Rick Johnston

Every bride wants their day to go off without a hitch and as beautiful as their every dream about it! Like most brides I had a hard time making sure everything was taken care of so that before hand I wouldn t loose a lot of sleep wondering if I had remembered to buy something or if the cake topper came in.

In planning a wedding, I feel it is necessary to pick ideal date(s). With this idea, if there is a conflict with a hall or caterer, you will still be pleased with your date. I find that booking your hall and caterer first seem to help everything else fall into place. Once your hall and caterer have been chosen and booked, making arrangements with a Disc Jockey, or DJ, and finding a florist is the next step and by calling around for the photographer and asking other people of their experiences, you will be sure to find a photographer that you will be satisfied with.

By trying to keep in mind all of the booking dates as well as bridal accessories to go along with the dress, the days I needed to make payments, making sure we had the hall, caterers, photographers, DJ, flowers, it all just seemed too overwhelming.

It is with all of these things in mind, I would like to share with every future bride out there, in order to help their time go easier.

First thing is to get a notebook and write everything down and dates. This way you know what you have taken care of and what is still needed to get done. This helped to evade that dreaded experience of not being prepared.

The next thing is I got a container to keep track of all of the odds and ends of the wedding that I didn t want to hunt down the day of the wedding. By buying a container, I was able to keep my shoes, purse, wedding cake topper, garter, jewelry, and ring bearer pillow, guest book, receiving line items (bubbles) all together.

The planning process shouldn t get to you after all, this is your day and should be the way you want it. I am sure by doing this you will also be able to keep track of things and making sure that the little things are being taken care of, ensuring that the plans were good on the hall and DJ, the place making the wedding cake, the caterer and menu. It is these simple steps that can help you to keep on top of things as I went about the planning process.

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Don t Be A Doormat in Your Relationship
By Lucia Demasi

There comes a point in every relationship when the person you are dating will do or say something that is out of line. How you react to those situations will determine if they will gain respect for you or whether they will start to see you as a doormat and begin to misbehave even more. I call these points, “Moments of Truth”.

Here are some answers that will immediately let the other person know you won’t put up with their nonsense. I suggest you become very familiar with them, so you’ll be ready to respond when the situation calls for it.

1. Now was that called for? - A 21 year old said this on me when I was 27 and I was blown away that such a young guy was being a lot more mature than I was at the time. I realized he was someone that had his act together, and I wouldn’t be able to get away with anything. It made me immediately respect him and I’ve never forgotten him.

2. Don’t start. I once said this to a guy who barely knew me. He was starting to get upset with me because I was 5 minutes late. Some people might have been tempted to appease him, but I felt his reaction was totally out of line. I did apologize for being late but I didn’t think he needed to make such a big deal out of it.

3. Such ugly words from such a handsome man/beautiful girl. This is a great one because at the same time as you are calling someone on something they said, you’re also giving them a compliment. Keep this one handy and use it often.

4. You can think that, if it makes you feel better. I remember saying this to an ex boyfriend who was jealous of a male friend and he said to me, “He just wants to sleep with you”. When I came back with this zinger, he was speechless. This is another good, all around line to be used anytime, anywhere.

5. I’m going to pretend I didn’t hear that. This should only be used for minor infractions, especially if the person has a history of saying “I was just kidding.” Your next response is, “I wasn’t”. Definitely don’t use this one if the person just told you they slept with someone else!

6. I not going to believe that you (fill in the blank). I know you’re better than that. This line was also used on me and it stopped me dead in my tracks. This is a sneaky one. If you disagree with whatever the person was not going to believe about you- that you would lie, cheat, steal, etc.- then you’re saying that you’re not better than that. No one wants to look bad, especially in front of someone they want to impress, so you’re obligated to show them that indeed, you are better than that.

7. If this is who you are, I don’t think it’s going to work out between us. This should only be used for major infractions. These could be big lies, cheating, accusing you of cheating for no apparent reason, driving drunk, stealing, etc. If , for some reason, you don’t want to break up with the person and are willing to give them one more chance, this is a way of doing it without actually telling them you’re giving them another chance. They’ll either a) step up to the plate, apologize and never do it again b) promise not to do it again, knowing that if they do, you’re out of there or c) know you’re not going to put up with their tawdry behavior and move on to the next victim. Either way, you win!

8. That’s not acceptable. This can and should be used often. It lets the person know you have boundaries and are not going to be walked on. I remember one guy I was dating disappeared for the weekend and didn’t return my calls. When I asked, “Why?” he said, “I don’t know” This would have been a perfect time to use this line, but instead I said, “Okay. Well, don’t do it again.” Ugh! A few weeks later he broke up with me.

8. How are you going to make it up to me? This is a great line to use if you just started seeing someone and they call at the last minute to cancel a date. You of course want to be understanding but you don t want them to think they can do this anytime and get away with it.

10. Silence. It’s been said that well-timed silence has more eloquence than speech. If someone tells an off color joke or says something totally ridiculous, a silent glare from you will let them know you’re not amused.

Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist, lecturer and host of the TV Show “The Art of Love”.

With over 20 years experience on the relationship market, Lucia has dated men of all nationalities in six cities, four countries and two continents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate to dispense relationship advice - after all, in almost every dating dilemma she has been there, done that and lived to tell about it.

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Plan Your 50th Wedding Anniversary Party Event
By Gail Leino

You guys approaching to celebrate your 50th Anniversary means that you have survived each other for that time span, which is splendid. You two know almost everything about each other, but there are still certain things that you might have not shared as of yet. I know what you are thinking that there is something that you have really wanted to share and I bet you should because this is the time when you can communicate something that you have always thought about doing. This is a unique idea that I present to most of my clients that they should do on their 50th anniversary.

On your 50th Wedding Anniversary, you can write down a letter that you would present to each other after the party is over and read the letter out in loud so that you can share things that you have always wanted to. Since this is a very special moment, just know that everything that you are going to share is strengthening your bond and bringing you a lot closer than before. Since you two know each other so well, it is important that you keep your heart open and accept of what is being shared.

The 50th Anniversary is the golden year of your lives and is something truly special, which makes you both the most special people in the world. Just be creative to plan your party with the golden themes and involve your children and grandchildren in planning out the very fine details of the party so that you make everyone the part of your happiness. You two deserve this grand moment. At this time you can share all the different celebrations that you have captured through the eye of your camera to share with the rest of the family and can look at those past moments and see how wonderful you have been through these years.

Mrs. Party… Gail Leino takes a common sense approach to planning and organizing events, celebrations and holiday parties with unique ideas for 50th Wedding Anniversary party supplies and fun free educational party games. She explains proper etiquette and living a healthy life while also teaching organizational skills and fun facts. The Party Supplies Shop has lots of party ideas with hundreds of free holiday printable games and free birthday party activities. Over 100 adorable Party Themes to fit your birthday celebration, holiday event, or “just because” parties is at the Party Theme Shop. Party themes include cartoon characters, sports, movie, TV shows, luau, western, holidays, and unique crazy fun theme ideas.

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Online Dating - How to Tell if the Website is Genuine
By Erick Shipmon

Online dating services are big business, pulling in over 3 million members on over 1000 online dating websites through out the internet. Over 17 million hits were recorded in 2002, with 15,000 new users logging on each day. But after spending your evenings surfing these sites and in chat rooms, how do you know if the site you ve chosen is a reputable site where you can find a real mate?

There are over 100 free online dating services, which can attract people who aren t committed to being a site member and following through with the rules that the site set up. A good rule of thumb is that reputable online dating sites will charge you monthly for becoming a member. This isn t necessarily true of all dating services online, but it’s a good idea to keep in mind. Online dating personals that consist mostly of chat rooms and instant messages can be a wary place to be as well. (Pay attention to the screen names these people chose!)

Take a good look at pictures sent from online dating services. Look for things in the background which could mean the sender is being deceptive, (like a picture of him leaning on a Rolls Royce with a dealership flyer in the background) and choose a site that asks for your zip code which verifies that there are actually people in your area registered with their site. Also, choose a site with a detailed profile it will be well worth your time because it will be used to narrow down the response list.

Another online dating tip for choosing the best sites, go with a popular one, even if it means higher membership rates. Popular online dating websites are already proven websites, and for the money, why not go with a site that is already successful?

Erick Shipmon has been an online marketer since 1997. He currently is the President and CEO of http://www.eDatingPlanet.com which is quickly becoming the hottest and most desirable online dating community on the planet.

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Change Your Relationship Today, If Not Your Partner
By Julie Coombs

No matter where we are in our relationships we
can begin to get more of what we want simply by
changing our thoughts about our partner.

Typically, as a relationship progresses we begin
to notice things we don t like. We tend to fall
into the trap of trying to change unwanted qualities
or behaviors, usually by making our partner feel
bad when the negative trait manifests itself.
This is usually due to the conditioning we
received from our past, which says, “Punish bad
behavior to discourage future infractions”.
This method appears to work at first, and it
always, always comes with a high price.

Punishment builds resentment no matter what the
results are. It places one partner above the
other, as a parent to a child. Punishment says,
“I love you…but, only when you behave in a way
that pleases me, I value my selfishness over yours.”
It s impossible to punish someone for being
selfish because the very act of puninishing
another for their selfisheness is selfishness
itself. Punishment creates conflict, and conflict
leads to stress and frustration.

None of us got together with our partner in order
to endure unhappiness. We entered into the
relatioship with our partner, because in the
beginning, they made us feel good. Good about
ourselves, about life and our future together.
It s this good feeling that we both desire, it s
the giving and receiving of this that creates a
a solid relationship.

So. How do we get back to that good feeling place
from a place of frustration and resentment?

By appreciating. A little bit of appreciation is
very effective at getting the results we desire.
The great part about appreciation is that we are
each in complete control of it. We can choose to
appreciate that which we enjoy at any time in
any moment. A little bit of appreciation daily
for our partner - whether they re near us or not
- causes us to respond to them differently when
they are with us, and our appreciation is felt by
our partner, even if we don t vocalize it.

Speaking the phrase “thank you” alone isn t always
enough, the magic of appreciation is found in the
internal feeling of genuine gratitude for our
partner s positive aspects that is felt and
affects change. Letting the internal feelings
flow to the external, however, gives us the best
of both worlds.

Here s a simple experiment you can try yourself.
It s based on a principle that says, “What we
focus upon expands.”

At least once a day, for the next two weeks,
take 17 seconds and focus upon a positive aspect
of your partner that you enjoy. Really get into
the feeling place of your appreciation. See it,
feel it, know it. The next time your partner
exhibits this quality in your everyday life,
reward them with appreciation in that moment,
without telling them what it s for.
It can be as simple as a smile, or a hug, or a
squeeze on the knee. If they ask you what that
was for, just say something like,
“because I love you.”

If you watch, you will notice how much more often
this quality manifests itself.

We know you ll be amazed at how big a difference
17 seconds a day of focused appreciation can make
in your relationship without you ever having to
change a single thing about your partner.

Let us know of your results. We look forward to
your stories of success.

Co-Written by Julie Coombs AKA DiamondJul & Andrew Wilcox AKA Windowe


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