Relationship Improvement Center

Sacred Marriage
By Deepak Chopra

People often think of relationship in terms of “convenience,” but what could be more inconvenient than having every fiber in your body touched by the timeless gifts of passion and love? Passion is not only one of the greatest gifts of life, but one of the strongest bonds of a relationship. In the early stages of a relationship, we experience attraction and infatuation. The passion born out of those stages can be intoxicating. As Rumi said, “If infatuation is madness, then I want to be crazy.”

In my book, The Path to Love, I invite you to make a soul bargain with love in order to align yourself with love. Far more than an emotion, love is a real force. And if Love is attuned to who you are, love will respond. At the Chopra Center, we begin each day with meditation. Prior to meditating we ask people to still themselves, then gently and innocently ask the question: “What do I want?” As they answer this question, they place their intentions into their subconscious mind and soul. We ask ourselves this question in a romantic context, an emotional context, or a physical context, and embed these intentions like seeds in the fertile soil of the subconscious.

We can each achieve ecstasy within our relationships when we intuitively and innocently understand that we are all the same we are simply wearing different disguises. The more we are willing to step into a universal consciousness with our partner, the more we can shift our attention from the “I/ME” to the “US/WE.”

As a relationship unfolds from a point of oneness, the bounds of the ego, as well as possessiveness and fear, are replaced by selfless love, appreciation, and grace. Layers of our disguise naturally slip away and all we are left with is one soul consciousness communicating with another, acknowledging the sanctity of their oneness.

A question that is often overlooked when there seems to be discontent or stress in a relationship is, “What actually just happened?” So often, we find ourselves unable to solve or evolve in our current situation because we are steeped in blame, accusation, and defense of our position. Asking ourselves just what happened in a conversation or interaction allows us to look at a situation clearly and objectively, so as to pierce the drama and baggage that often accompanies miscommunication

Ninety-five percent of the problems in relationships exist because of lapses in communication. The Communication between two people in a relationship can evolve and grow exponentially when both people make a commitment to communicate using the principles that Marshall Rosenberg offers in his book, Non-Violent Communication. The next time your partner has you at wit’s end, simply ask yourself, “What happened here?” Then ask, “How can I selflessly, defenselessly, and compassionately take the relationship to a higher level?”

This article is an excerpt from the book Marriage of Sex & Spirit (http://www.MarriageOfSexAndSpirit.com), a collection of forty seven of the most provocative and fresh current thinkers in the area of relationship today. Other authors in this anthology include Leo Buscaglia, Gabriel Cousins, Caroline Myss, Wayne Dyer, Barbara Marx Hubbard, John Gray and Thich Nhat Hanh. Find more information at http://www.EliteBooksOnline.com

Deepak Chopra, M.D., has written some thirty books, which have been translated into thirty-five languages. He is also the author of more than one hundred audio and video series, including five critically acclaimed programs on public television. In 1999 Time magazine selected Dr. Chopra as one of the Top 100 Icons and Heroes of the Century, describing him as “the poet-prophet of alternative medicine.” Dr. Chopra currently serves as CEO and founder of The Chopra Center in Carlsbad, California.

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It s Not You
By Dianna Hobbs

“It’s not you. It’s me.” Oh no . . . what a dreadful statement. Have you ever heard that before? It probably doesn’t feel very good to hear it, right? After all, sometimes it just seems like a pitiful excuse to bail on you, or just a sorry cop out.

But let’s try putting our biases aside for a moment and examining the phrase objectively.

Sometimes, it really isn’t you. It truly is the other party involved that has unresolved issues they need to work through. Here’s something I want you to remember. Never internalize other people’s stuff. What do I mean? I’ll tell you. Don’t ever carry around feelings of guilt, inadequacy, or dismay over another individual’s decision not to be a part of your life.

Whether it’s a business client, a friend, or relative, you can’t walk around carrying those bottled up hurts. Let’s be real. In life, differences between two parties sometimes act as walls or barriers. Truth is, these emotional fortresses are impenetrable and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It doesn’t mean you’re unworthy of the attention, the business, the promotion, or the praise. As unpleasant as it may seem, rejection is just a natural part of life.

There’s no use spinning your wheels and asking questions like: “What’s wrong with me? How come things never work out for me? Why am I always holding the emotional baggage left over from continuous rejection and resentment?”

No, no, no. Those are the wrong questions to ask. Instead of beating yourself up over matters beyond your control, here’s a far better idea. Recognize that it’s not your loss. On the contrary, by refusing to accept the valuable treasures you have to offer, the abandoning party misses out on a golden opportunity to experience the brightest, best, and finest that life has to offer.

You are a wonderful jewel. You are a gift to others. You have so much to offer. And just because some don’t see it doesn’t make it any less true. I want you to hold your head up high today and recognize that you’re on your way to a place where you’ll be celebrated and not tolerated.

Regardless of what happens, your sense of value and worth is not derived from others. Rather, all your help, your validity, and your confidence come from the Lord. “I lift up my eyes to the hillswhere does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:1, 2 NIV).

Until next time . . . may you be empowered to prosper!

Dianna Hobbs is the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of Empowering Everyday Women Online Magazine, the premier online magazine for African American Christian women. This article is taken from Dianna s highly popular blog series called, Dianna Hobbs: Empowering Everyday Women. It is circulated to thousands of Christian women in search of inspiration for their ministerial and entrepreneurial efforts. To receive these exceptional articles directly, simply log onto http://www.diannahobbs.typepad.com and subscribe to our email updates. To read EEW Magazine log onto http://www.eewmagazine.com

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Erectile Dysfunction Treatments
By Kristy Annely

Erectile dysfunction is not new, although decades ago not many men admitted suffering from it. Erectile dysfunction affects all ages but is also treatable despite age.

There are several causes of erectile dysfunction, and as a result of this the available treatments are also different.

Psychotherapy is a very powerful treatment because often, erectile dysfunction is not due to a medical condition, but is the result of emotional stress. In psychotherapy the role and the attitude of the partner is very important.

Modern men take pills for everything, and erectile dysfunction is no exception. In addition to the famous Viagra (approved by the Food and Drug Administration in 1998), which was the first oral medication for erectile dysfunction, there are other popular drugs that act similarly to Viagra (Sildenafil) - for instance, Cialis (Tadalafil) and Vardenafil (Levitra) also stimulate the flow of blood to the penis, thus making it easier to get an erection when there is sexual stimulation.

But before resorting to erectile dysfunction drugs, consult your doctor because there are cases (for instance a recent heart attack) when you should not even think about them. In the rare cases where the reason for erectile dysfunction is testosterone deficiency, hormone replacement therapy might be enough.

Mechanical vacuum devices create a partial vacuum, which causes the blood to flow to the penis. After an erection is achieved, a special elastic band, which is attached at the base of the penis, prevents the blood from flowing back to the body. This technique delivers a long-lasting erection to make an intercourse possible.

Vascular surgery and penile implants are the “heavy artillery” of erectile dysfunction treatment. In addition to being much more expensive, these methods of treatment are riskier, and are resorted to only when the other methods are not giving results. But it is likely that for lighter forms of erectile dysfunction there will be no need to go that far.

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Signs that Say She s Not Interested
By Claire Brent

For many guys, dating a girl can be as confusing as it is fun. Many men think that women are hard to figure out and understand. For example, a common gripe is that women say what they don’t mean. They say things that have hidden messages or subtle meaning. They expect you to read their minds. It can be complicated, for certain. However, when a woman is not interested, the signs are clear.

Its important to pay attention to the kind of vibe a women is giving you when in a relationship or when interested in starting one. While she may not come outright and say she wants to be left alone, there are other ways to tell that may help you to bow out gracefully before letting her call the shots.

She’s Not Laughing

A woman who is interested in a guy will laugh at almost everything he says. She will touch him arm, look directly into his eyes and smile frequently. A woman that is not interested will slap a fake smile on her face without laughing, politely tolerate what is being said (if you’re lucky) and make an excuse to leave as soon as possible. Unless you’re at a funeral, if a woman is not laughing, walk away.

In a relationship, having a sense of humor is an important tool to keep things fresh and to weather the ups and downs that will come. When a woman stops being able to laugh at the little things, it may be time to reevaluate the direction of the relationship. This alone may not signify a potential reason for breaking up, however it’s a sure sign that there are problems that need to be addressed. Simply put - if a woman is laughing, she’s happy. If she’s not, she’s not.

She’s Difficult to Please

If a woman is not interested, nothing you can do or say will please her. She’ll have a comment, usually a critical one, about everything from how you dress to who your friends are. Go ahead and take it personally and walk away with your self-esteem still in tact. If a man will not walk away on his own, a woman will use her words to chase him away.

While some people are just difficult to please anyway, in a relationship, a woman who is no longer interested will have a noticeable change in this behavior. It will heighten or come to an extreme place. A man will start to feel whipped and emotionally drained from following around a woman who will never stops to let him catch up. Its important to address this behavior and get to the cause because it may be a sign that its time to jump ship and swim for calmer shores.

She Always Has Her Friends Around

Friends are a great buffer. A woman who is not interested doesn’t want to be alone with you. Whether you’re in a relationship or just getting to know each other, a group of friends that won’t go away is a sure sign that she’s looking for a way out. A woman who is interested will tell them to leave and not to wait up.

Claire Brent is the author of the free 7 days mini course “Online Dating Mastery”. Discover the essential steps of a highly succesful online dating experience by signing up free at http://onlinedating.ezguide2.com/newsletter.html

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Women Want a Real Man - Defined
By Rion Williams

When women say they want a real man, they mean it. They re tired of guys only being interested in one thing and being so intimidated by them.

Single women are really looking forward to meeting a real man that they ve often forgot what to do if that real man comes along because it s all so conscious on the forefront of their
mind.

When you re a real man around women, all kinds of interesting things happen.

But what does a real man mean?

Notice how women say they like a man who is comfortable in his own skin .

Let me clarify that some more. They want a man who is comfortable in his own skin in relation to THEM . A man who is high in natural character and doesn t give up his power.

See, an everyday guy (who is a real man) can be comfortable in his own skin until he sees a glimpse of T&ampA under tight clothing right in front of him and he instantly drops into a conditioned behavioral response.

His relationship to his environment and her changes.

He actually drops in what I call character around the woman.

He gets nervous, fidgety, his heart starts beating faster and he starts thinking about what to do, how to approach or what he would say to get the prize.

The true relationship between then is already evident. She is the behavioral stimulus and he is the response.

Now if he just kept his relational independence in the first place, he d be fine. THEN he would be a real man. It s all in the type of relationship he has with her.

When he is being himself without changing his behavior around women in any sense, then women can trust him physiologically.

Women can then naturally slip into the response mode because man is the stimulus in the mating game. He should be a constant stimulus who is always comfortable and all kinds of doors will open with women.

Since women are the response, they ll also respond to the stimulus of these nervous, intimidated guys who are thrown off by her sexuality and her very real behavior.

A woman just won t respond to them the way those men wanted her to respond.

It s more like Get away loser.

Why? Apart from the reality that our women aren t behaving natural (which doesn t matter in success with them), it s because he wasn t being a real man . He was in the wrong
relational dynamic with her.

It s obvious to see how this further hurts the male ego and self-esteem.

All of his behavioral uncomfort and the signals he sends is rooted in having an inaccurate alpha model of female sexuality in the first place.

He s been conditioned by the media and the world around him to be in the social relational dynamic with women instead of the natural relational dynamic.

It s up to the man to know that so he can get on the path to REAL physiological change and comfort around women. The woman doesn t care how he does it or who he is even, until
she sees that he is comfortable in his own skin in relation to her.

THAT is when it all begins.

Then she can trust him to be a constant stimulus so that she is safe to open up and experience full-on natural attraction.

And this whole process usually happens within a few seconds often before he even sees her. She will have determined a lot of information about him up front because he is always communicating.

Don t you want to (always) be communicating the RIGHT signals that attract women?

Wouldn t it be great to actually BE equal in relational power to the most beautiful and desired women on earth?

These women are so used to the same old thing from men when they re not interested in them in the first place. You come along and be the guy that can make a casual connection with
them without any pretense and without ever giving up your power, you re going to melt some women right there.

The thing is, you can t act it. You have to be it because women know . Finally there is a defined way to actually become a natural (back to your roots).

It s Alpha Relational Dynamics.

That s why I receive signals from women about everywhere I go while other guys don t. Their intuition knows that I am a real man who is comfortable in relation to their power and beauty.

THAT is something worth having. It s value because you re finally their equal (or greater)…then the excitement can begin and the women are the ones who are then in competition for the real man…not someone like you, you!

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics.

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