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Why Mother Blindly Love Her Child?
By Vicheka Lay

Attempting to answer all and even crazy questions has convoked me of one human question “why mother blindly love her child?” And why it is not father? Moreover, why siblings and relatives cannot love each other as the mother’s way? And why cannot our head of state love his/her fellow citizen to the quantity of the mother’s love? The following paragraph will explain the foregoing philosophy-oriented question.

There is only one reason why mother blindly loves and cares for her child: “she gives birth to him/her.” All of us are aware that what we obtain through endeavor, we will value and love that thing and the more endeavor we execute the more we love and value that thing. The foregoing fact is the indirect answer to why mother blindly loves her child.

Birth-giving is the most hazardous experience in the mother’s entire life this is the reason why she unquestionably and unconditionally loves her child. Despite today, birth-giving is not as dangerous as in the past, since we have modern techniques and skilled midwife to help, birth-giving is still the most awesome experience in the mother’s life.

Eliciting from the above rationalization, I have an answer to a self-asked question: “why in the older day, mother seem to love and be attached to her child more than today mother?” The answer is that, in the older day, birth-giving is much more life-threatening than today.

The above philosophical statement on why mother blindly loves her child dramatically teaches us real-life lessons, as well as the answer to legal, political, social, economical and other humanitarian questions.

Some questions and answers drawing from mother-child formula

Q: Why politician blindly love his/her power?
A: Because profound perspiration and inspiration are executed before getting the power into his/her hand.

Q: Why child does not love his/her mother to the extent of his/her mother’s love to him/her?
A: Because child does not undergo any life-threatening experience why he/she is coming out of the mother’s womb.

Q: Why a person who wins five millions from lottery more extravagantly spend those winning amount, comparing to a tycoon?
A: Because the lottery winner too easily gets the money while tycoon could own great wealth by doing perspiration businesses and other endeavors.

Q: Why power from coup d’?tat last shorter than or not as smooth as the power from popular election?
A: Because power from coup d’?tat is much easier than power from popular election.

Q: Why we appreciate a rich from struggle, but not a rich from corruption?
A: Because one’s achievement is gained from struggle, while another’s achievement is gained from corruption. Struggle means “hero” and corruption means “villain”.

Q: Why some people commit suicide after losing one’s reputation?
A: Because to gain that reputation, one has paid enormous and life-long perspiration.

And much more…

Conclusion

Too many examples in our daily and economic lives are on track with the above explanation about why mother blindly loves her child. Remember that amongst other criteria, perspiration is the source for any achievement.

Lay Vicheka is a translator for the most celebrated translation agency in the Kingdom of Cambodia, Pyramid Translation Co.Ltd.. He is now hoding other two professions: freelance writer for Search Newspaper focusing on social issues and students issues and Media Liaison Officer for Asia s first free on-line IELTS consultation website. Lay Vicheka is the expert author for ezine and prolific article contributor to other websites around the world such as articlecity, 365articles, spiderden, talesofasia, etc (Just google him). He is also a volunteer Cambodian-newspapers columnist (Rasmey Kampuchea and Kampuchea Thmey). Lay Vicheka has great experience in law and politics, as he used to be legal and English-language assistant to a Cambodian member of parliament, migration experience (home-based business) and in writing. He is also member of a New York-based research company. Posting address: 221H Street 93, Tuol Sangke quarter, Russey Keo district, Phnom Penh, Cambodia. Tel: 855 11 268 445, vichekalay@yahoo.com

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How To Get The Love Of Your Life Back
By Lisa France

I am on my second marriage and have been determined to not go through another divorce. About six months ago my husband and I were having some problems and he moved out. I was devastated, even though our relationship at that point didn t feel like it was worth saving I did not want to rip my family apart. I came across a couple of strategies that really worked for me and I know they can help you also. First of all there is an e-book called How To Get Him Back (see resource below). This book is relatively inexpensive and was great for the short term fix. I followed the suggestions and my husband was begging to come home within a week! Absolutely amazing from a military man who has trouble swallowing his pride and showing his feelings. I could not believe it.

After the adjustment of coming home and getting back to normal life I knew our relationship still needed work or we would never make it. I read a book called “For Better or Best” by Gary Smalley, there is also a companion book “If He Only Knew”. These books were life savers for me. My husband has went from a harsh, screaming, name-calling man to the gentle sincere and caring love of my life. All because these books taught me how to react and treat him so he has no other choice. I have total control and he does not even realize is.

I am now 6 months pregnant with our second child and this is the best our relationship has ever been in the four years we have been together. Good luck to you. Hope you have the same results as i did. If you follow the advice I know you will.

Sincerely,
Lisa

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Women Are Not Aliens
By Deborah Willis

One of the very worst mistakes a man can make with a woman is to believe that she s an alien creature of some sort. By this I mean that it s a mistake to view women from the stance that they are an entirely different sort of being in every way possible. This simply is not true.

Women are different in many ways, but basically men and women are very similar. Everyone has the same basic needs. Physical needs, such as food and water, of course, are vital to everyone. We all possess the same basic emotional needs as well. We re all human and have the desire to be wanted and needed by someone special in our lives. We all have the need to be loved and cherished.

Men are taught not to be overly sensitive or show vulnerability else they re labeled as “sissy”. That attitude may serve them well on the football field, but not in the relationship arena. Women adore men who are able to show their soft side to them.

Women like men who are strong and manly, yet sensitive and caring. Show her you have a heart underneath that tough exterior and she ll love you for it. Go ahead and let your guard down once in a while when the situation is appropriate. It s OK to be a tough guy, but when you re alone with your lady you need to soften up a bit.

If you come across as heartless, she s going to interpret that to mean you are incapable of feeling and experiencing love and she ll write you off as a lost cause. Women possess hormones which cause their emotions to get the best of them at times. That s just how it is and she can t change that.

Men also possess the same hormones in smaller quantities and they re taught early on not to let their emotions get the best of them. This carries over into their adult relationships with women.

Both sexes have a basic need to feel wanted, loved, and cherished. Don t be afraid to do things to show your lady she s loved. Go ahead and leave her little love notes where she s sure to find them. Present her with flowers every now and then “just because”. Be kind and caring toward animals, young children, and elderly people.

Demonstrate to her that you are capable of being sensitive and nurturing and she ll soon realize that you re the sort of man she could fall in love with and that you re capable of loving her in return.

If you can show your soft side to a lady and make her feel special and cherished, you ll find this has a boomerang effect and she ll reciprocate by saying and doing things that make you feel wanted, loved and cherished as well.

Remember, those are basic emotional needs for everyone and you should never neglect to inject those feelings into your relationship every chance you get. By doing so, it makes the biggest difference in the closeness you ll develop with her.

Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved

Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN — The Average Man s Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more down-to-earth advice for men visit ATTRACT WOMEN

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Couples Who Press the Play Button
By James Krehbiel

Couples who are having relationship difficulties engage in a process I call, “Pressing the Play Button.” Unable to navigate their problems by interacting in a healthy way, they tend to “unravel” in their communications. Both parties may react to the most insignificant of issues and take off down their slippery slope.

What makes the process of unhealthy communications more perplexing is that neither partner seems to understand what set them off as their conflict picks up momentum. Words are uttered in the course of the conflict that causes great emotional hurt and disappointment. As the partners engage in hurting each other, they may either ramp up by becoming aggressive or shut down and avoid further confrontation.

Apologizing may come later. But, it is too late. The damage has been done and the resentment builds with each passing moment. One partner may want to “fix” the damage by prematurely asking for forgiveness or acting overly pleasing, but a stifling silence may hover over the relationship indefinitely.

Why does the emotional wreckage occur and how can it be stopped? Couples who follow a dysfunctional pattern of communicating may need outside help. They need a third party, such as the clergy or a counselor to help sort out the dynamics of their interpersonal pain.

Some factors that negatively effect promoting positive couples’ communications are:

Unresolved family-of-origin issues and current situational stressors. These factors may be exacerbating a couples’ ability to communicate in a healthy manner.

Rigidly forcing one’s notion of the “right” way of viewing issues, rather than sharing feelings to be mutually explored can foster relationship conflict.

Making value judgments regarding your partner’s opinions rather than accepting ideas from a “different” perspective is harmful.

Using sarcasm, manipulation, and withholding affection are dangerous tactics.

Speaking for your artner rather than taking responsibility for your own feelings keeps conflict alive.

Clubbing your partner with insults, name-calling and resurrecting ancient history can do a great deal of harm.

Splitting loyalties by putting the needs of other family members ahead of your partner is a set-up for on-going conflict.

Trust, commitment and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship. Without these qualities, effective communications between partners will be difficult and the relationship will not move forward. Couples need to learn how to promote understanding. This entails respecting and valuing the free flow a partners’ opinions and ideas. In order to promote understanding, couples must learn to let go of their selfish need to hide behind their own perspective and work on viewing the world through the eyes of their significant other. As M. Scott Peck said in The Road Less Traveled, love is a commitment to the spiritual and psychological well-being of our cherished partner. Learn to turn off the “play button” by making a pact with your partner that you will work on listening, valuing, and appreciating one another no matter how small or large the conflicts may be.

James P. Krehbiel is an author, contributing writer, and cognitive behavioral therapist. Sample chapters of his book, Stepping Out of the Bubble: Reflections on the Pilgrimage of Counseling Therapy are available at http://www.booklocker.com/pdf/2242s.pdf He can be reached at http://www.krehbielcounseling.com

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First Kiss: 10 Things You Must Know When Planning Your First Kiss
By Karin I Manning

To avoid your first kiss being a disaster, there are some simple first kiss tips that you should follow to make your first kiss memorable for the right reason. This article will discuss some first kiss tips including 10 things you must know when planning your first kiss.

There are two different kinds of first kisses. There is the first kiss you will have with a new love interest and there is your first kiss ever. Whichever first kiss you are about to experience, they are both so thrilling, so exciting that you will hold them in your memory and possibly your hearts for a very long time, if not forever.

When it comes to your first time kiss there are some things you must know to ensure that your first kiss is memorable for all the right reasons.

1. Don t put your first kiss on display in front of other people. This is your first intimate shared experience together and should be in private with no chance of interruptions from friends, family and especially strangers.

2. Don t kiss when either or both of you are in a rush. If you are in a hurry and kiss and run, then the other person may think that you have had a terrible reaction to their kiss. If they kiss and run because they have to be somewhere then you could be spending the next 72 hours wondering whether you are the worse kisser on the planer. Make sure you both have time to enjoy this moment of intimacy together.

3. Build yourself up beforehand so that you aren t too nervous. Also spend some time in close physical proximity to your love interest so that you are not too overwhelmed by their physical closeness but you are close enough to make a move on the other person without appearing forced and awkward.

4. If you are thinking of kissing your love interest then make sure you hold eye contact for a period of time. In these few seconds you will be able to gauge whether the other person is looking uncomfortable, is embarrassed or totally turned off by the thought of locking lips with you.

5. If you re thinking of kissing someone real soon and feel that you are going to pounce on them any day now make sure you brush your teeth regularly and have tasty chewing gum and mints on hand just in case.

6. If you re thinking of kissing someone soon don t keep re-applying your lipstick. Not only will it taste terrible but it will smear over both of your faces making you look like a freaky clown in a Stephen King novel rather than the object of their desire.

7. Hopefully this only applies to guys but if you have got stubble now is the time to become a little obsessed with shaving. Because pash rash hurts. Seriously. We all remember those pictures of Katie Holmes that were recently splashed over the tabloids with blisters over her face (thanks to Tom Cruise). Stubble may look cute but most stubble hair is hard and tough. Rub your hand across your facial hair now. Three and four day growth is like someone s rubbing sandpaper all over your face. If you want to get passionate on a regular basis for long periods of time then start shaving.

8. Kissing someone who smokes is like kissing an ashtray. I know. I ve been there and done that. If I wanted to kiss an ashtray, I would. Believe me, most people don t. If you can t stop smoking then make sure you never ever smoke unless you have got gum or mints handy. Smoking is one thing but tasting like smoke is another. Your love interest will appreciate your thoughtfulness and consideration too.

9. Never be drunk if you want your first kiss to be memorable. You want to be remembered for being a great, skilful kisser and not a sloppy out of control drunk. Being drunk while having your first kiss is something your love interest will sooner forget, and that s the last result you want.

10. Never criticize anyone for their kissing style. Kissing is a deeply personal and intimate experience. Your love interest may have had horrible teachers. Now is your chance to make it your mission to make your love interest the best kisser they possibly can be. A first kiss is a wonderful experience that two people can share. Don t trivialise it or lesson its impact by telling your love interest they re the worse kisser you have ever had. Just put it down to a bad experience that will improve in time. Make it your mission to become the most fantastic kisser imaginable and enjoy the journey to mastering the art of kissing and being the best kisser they ve ever had.

Some people are lucky enough to be born hot kissers. They know how to kiss. Others need a bit more practice in learning how to kiss and how to master the art of kissing. Either way, it s never too late to become the best kisser you can be. The answer is right in front of your eyes on the tip of your tongue.

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